Hey man,
Listen: I understand it's alot more complicated when you are living under the same roof and things aren't working out. But you gotta put an end to her ********, and you gotta leave!
What she is doing is something that women do VERY well: MANIPULATION.
Now I'm not a misogynist woman hater by any means, but this is the truth. Men are more direct when they try to get what they want, and women manipulate.
She is getting everything she needs right now! She's SET! She gets sex and abuse from her ex, and she gets love and pity from you. She's getting all her needs met, and as messed up as it is, she couldn't have it any better.
Telling you she feels guilty, assuring you she's done with him and then calls him when YOU are in the other room??? Honestly man, it's f*cking bullsh*t. Please don't put up with that. You have to let yourself see that she is getting everything she needs right now, at whatever cost. She's nice to you, then ignores you the next day. But it's trained behaviour. She knows she can get away with it because you are always there. JUST LEAVE!!!
And another thing: Why do YOU have to leave? I know you are co-signed, but as far as I'm concerned, she's cheating on you. Can you just kick her out, pay her share for a month and take your time to move. You HAVE TO put your foot down and be done with this.
For the sake of guys everywhere, you must lay down the law!
I'm sorry if I sound harsh but if there's anything I've learned lately, is that life really is short. Think of your life as an hourglass. You really do only have so much time! WHY does SHE need to take up so much of that precious time? There is so much to do out there, so many people to meet that logically, it simply doesn't make sense to continue even keeping her in your thoughts. Wouldn't you rather be thinking about driving your car? Playing with your kids? Meeting that new person that makes you feel awesome?
It may be hard to envision right now but really try to. It's not too late to start again.
Listen: I understand it's alot more complicated when you are living under the same roof and things aren't working out. But you gotta put an end to her ********, and you gotta leave!
What she is doing is something that women do VERY well: MANIPULATION.
Now I'm not a misogynist woman hater by any means, but this is the truth. Men are more direct when they try to get what they want, and women manipulate.
She is getting everything she needs right now! She's SET! She gets sex and abuse from her ex, and she gets love and pity from you. She's getting all her needs met, and as messed up as it is, she couldn't have it any better.
Telling you she feels guilty, assuring you she's done with him and then calls him when YOU are in the other room??? Honestly man, it's f*cking bullsh*t. Please don't put up with that. You have to let yourself see that she is getting everything she needs right now, at whatever cost. She's nice to you, then ignores you the next day. But it's trained behaviour. She knows she can get away with it because you are always there. JUST LEAVE!!!
And another thing: Why do YOU have to leave? I know you are co-signed, but as far as I'm concerned, she's cheating on you. Can you just kick her out, pay her share for a month and take your time to move. You HAVE TO put your foot down and be done with this.
For the sake of guys everywhere, you must lay down the law!
I'm sorry if I sound harsh but if there's anything I've learned lately, is that life really is short. Think of your life as an hourglass. You really do only have so much time! WHY does SHE need to take up so much of that precious time? There is so much to do out there, so many people to meet that logically, it simply doesn't make sense to continue even keeping her in your thoughts. Wouldn't you rather be thinking about driving your car? Playing with your kids? Meeting that new person that makes you feel awesome?
It may be hard to envision right now but really try to. It's not too late to start again.
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